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Salesh Dipak Fernando





How far would you travel to meet someone you admire ? What if it all goes wrong?   My health was at it’s worst – A bad cold, flu, a voice that had began to sound like Motta Rajendran and a travel half way across the city for that brief moment of happiness. It was a gamble. But I was ready despite the obstacles.

I arrive almost an hour before the event.” You have no sense Salesh. Excuse yourself and come back at 4.00 PM”. I curse myself for being the early bird.  But something else grabs my attention. A bunch of youngsters running around to make sure everything was in order. The energy within the room was infectious. Neither of them had any idea how many people would turn up. But their passion and commitment was relentless and inspiring. At their age I had no idea where my life was heading. But these youngsters had a goal and a purpose and nothing was going to stop them.

The event begins and the voices that spoke were inspiring and uplifting. More often than not we consider the specially abled kids as an inspiration but how about those people who rarely get the limelight. The ones who dedicate their lives towards the betterment of these special people. The event was an interesting insight into their world. Their everyday struggles and small moments of happiness. 

The ramp walk too was unique with each of the participants conveying a worthy message. The finale had an interesting twist. I was asked to speak and tell my story to the world. The moment I had been waiting for finally arrived and it had taken me 5 long years to get to where I want to be. It was short messy narration but I loved the moment. I missed my family and my friends from CBC, Let’s talk life, Blogchatter and all the people who had touched my life in one way or the other. Hopefully atleast some of them would be present the next time when I take up the stage as a designated speaker.

The next time you come across people who are specially abled remember one thing. They don’t need you. You need them to inspire and uplift you. They seek your empathy and not sympathy. A big shout out to the entire team of Voice of the Unheard for a spectacular beginning.  Thalaivar style la solanum na  ” Idhu chumma trailer than. Main picture neenga innum pakala”.

PS: I did have my fanboy moment when I met the star that I was destined to meet. It was brief but a moment to be treasured for eternity.



A pause and a greeting which constituted just two words “ Hi Salesh”. I have been trying to understand the essence of those words ever since that splendid open mic session. Of course almost everyone greets with a customary hi but I have never seen a host pause in the middle of a speech just to greet a member of the audience.  We often mourn the lack of empathy but small meaningful gestures like this do remind us that empathy does exist if we look for it in the right places.

The pause itself has a deeper meaning.  Sometimes a small meaningful pause can make a whole lot of difference.  All of us are in a rush. Perhaps society has deceived us so much with it’s stringent set of norms. We are forced to be a part of the herd without even understanding what we want. There’s something called self analysis and reflection which never happens for most of us until it is too late.

And then there’s another section of the crowd who are so full of themselves.  Ok you are so far ahead than the rest of us but why not pause for a moment and lend a hand to someone who needs it.  Of course there’s a need to be individualistic and selfish but a small diversion to lift someone up can make a lasting impression. And being benevolent doesn’t mean you are naive it just implies that you love to give.

I have been addressed in so many ways “Inspiration, A fighter, A giver but I consider myself a garbage with no clear cut goal or plans. I have come thus far only because people were benevolent enough to pick me up and mould me into what I could be. They embraced me with open arms and paused for me when I needed a hand

 A hero can be anyone. Even a man doing something as simple and reassuring as putting a coat around a young boy’s shoulders to let him know that the world hadn’t ended.

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How do I define Acceptance? If you ask a school kid or teen acceptance begins when he/she excels among his peers. An adult in his late 20’s yearns for a secure job and a happy family to gain acceptance in this society.  Our perception of acceptance differs as we move forward in life.

I have a different viewpoint. Acceptance starts within. More often than not we fall prey to the society’s perception of Acceptance. We shape our life to suit the whims and fancies of the people around us. Is it really necessary?  I don’t think so. How about shaping our lives around our own strengths and weakness.  

Self – Acceptance is an important virtue which lies dormant within most of us. We all have our own flaws. We make mistakes and wrong choices. But that’s what makes us unique – Fragile vulnerable human beings.  Love yourself. Embrace your flaws. Be yourself.  Learn to forgive yourself for the wrong choices instead of fretting over lost opportunities. 

Tolerance towards your fellow beings can happen only when you are self – tolerant. Self Acceptance is often the key to inner peace. Live life on your own terms for you have only one chance to be somebody’s inspiration. 




BoyhoodRichard Linklater’s labour of love. Before I begin hats off to the director’s vision. It is not very often that you get see the characters actually grow up on screen.  It’s surreal and mystifying. Boyhood takes it’s own sweet time to grow on you. It unfolds gradually like a series of brilliant montage shots.

There are moments in the film where you feel “it happened to me too” and that’s where the movie strikes a chord with the audience.  As the little boy grows into a mature person the world around him keeps changing, his parents grow further apart, the years fly by even as he begins to discover what lies within him.

The Mom who gives her all for the family despite the chaos in her own life, the sweet sibling rivalry, the dad whom the kids yearn for. We have all come across similar personalities in our daily life. Richard wonderfully fits his 12 year old dream in a simple canvas that everybody can relate to.  No complexities or melodrama just everyday happenings of an ordinary middle class family.

Patricia is brilliant as struggling single mom a role which earned her a deserving Oscar. Ethan Hawke and Lorelei Linkater shine in admirable supporting roles. The real standout performance though comes from Ellar Coltrane as his life is peeled off layer by layer right in front of our eyes. We see him grow, we see him yearn and we see him re-define. 

In this big bad world our lives move at such a rapid pace. We fail to press the pause button and slow down. Boyhood is a gentle reminder to look back at the moments that defined our very existence

Richard Linklater – I bow to thy vision and perseverance.

Boyhood – A rare gem.

My Rating – 5/5 





A Post by a friend of mine got me thinking. The post was more of lament of how the society perceives us and what they want us to do. A 27 she faces the obvious question from her so called relatives “When are you getting married”? Even yours truly is faced with the same question and to be frank it pisses me off.
People often forget that marriage is a union of two hearts. Once you reach or cross a certain age marriage becomes a mandate. If you are still unmarried then there is something wrong ?. When did society’s perception start ruling our lives ?
If we start re-shaping our lives the way the society wants us to then the whole purpose of living is lost. More often than not the haste in abiding by the norms leads to wrong decisions. A late union is way better than a forced union.
I am gonna to take my time to find my angel and I hope my friend does too. And last but not least GET MARRIED BECAUSE YOU WANT TO.. NOT BECAUSE U HAVE TO. Let bliss happen when the time is right.

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