Salesh Dipak Fernando




Dear parents,

 We love you and we will always be grateful for the way you moulded us till we could spread our wings. But why look at this bond as some sort of payback obligation. Why drive us to a point where we have to hide our fears and insecurities from you? Why do we have to seek solace in the embrace of strangers?

In an ideal world a parent should be the first go to person for a son or a daughter. But we are forced to wear a mask that you like.  We understand your concerns but beyond a certain point the same concern can suffocate and break us.

The burden of a society which overwhelms us with questions is already a little too much to bear.  The thought of constant ridicule for a perfectly sane choice almost drives us to the point of despair. We come home to relish in the comfort of your warm embrace. But our home too seems to be a mirror image of the plastic society.

We don’t blame you. There’s no blame game here but do learn when to let go and when to hold.  It’s alright if we fall while moving forward. Atleast the choice that led to the fall will be ours. When your hold tightens the frustration within leads to emotional scars that never heal.

We are unique individuals with our own choices and preferences. Don’t expect us to be replicas of someone else’s son or daughter.  We are not clones. Be there for us when we need you. No matter how hard you try to make for the years in isolation those stolen moments of happiness which we desperately yearn for will never come back.

With loads of love,

Your Son/Daughter

















  1. I agree to the post 100%. I hope we feel the same way when it is time to let go off our offsprings. It might be heard, but I am adamant on letting them live life their way.

  2. Hi Salesh,
    I somehow feel these words were there on mind for a long time and the movie Dear zindagi triggered the write up.
    Nevertheless, I don’t want to but I agree to most of the points you put forth. In a way I am seeing all these as lessons for my future . Because the damage has been done and at times it’s irrepairable. And no point in changing others. So better learn and change yourselves. Don’t be your parent. Be a better one. That’s what I keep telling myself.

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